I've been talking to Alison about this lately, and we've come to the conclusion that guys and gals can never be true friends. One of the parties in the friendship always has an alterior motive. A crush. A liking that is not acceptable to their object of affection (in friendship's disguise)'s significant other.
Try to prove me wrong. Each one of my former girl-friends has ended in disaster. Eventually, someone develops a crush and tries to push things. Alison too. Her guy-friends ended the same way.
Plus there's this theory: that the friendship revolves around the secret knowledge that the other likes you. Yep! That's what fuels the friendship. It's flirting with disaster really. One example is this guy Alison used to get a ride back from college with. Her former boyfriend, and one of my friends, didn't like this guy because he knew that said-name-driver liked Alison. And years later, Alison admits she knew it.
So to all you dudes and chicks, beware. Be honest about it. OH, and one last thing: the longer you're married, the lesser this rule CAN apply. There may be actual friendships between genders, but be wary and judgmental in distinguishing. Many relationships falter from misidentification.
So I said my theory, and then took it back, all in the same post.
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