Layers of Color: A Book Report

I don't count 'Dear John' as Nicholas Sparks' best story, but it did hit home on several topics. If you've read it, you probably can guess the most obvious reason. But let me tell you what gets me, and what I understand better now, having read this book.
What gets me is tangled relationships. Oh man, I'll leave and do something else if cheating enters the plot. Or when characters are foolish. It burns me up. I cringe. I fiddle. I can't watch (or in this case, read.) What I remind myself after a story like this one is that relationships are not set out like circuit boards. There more like balls of yarn. They become layers of color, and the successful relationships give the big tangled mess a brilliant color when you step away from it.

I guess that's why Rothko's became famous. They seem like simple blocks of color, like this one with red, blue, and purple. There are layers, and the end result is more vibrant than a simple red. More enveloping than a blue square.

Of course there are rules to it. The first color down acts like sunglasses for any other color layed. That's why people ask how couples meet.
And, the stepping away to see the color may explain why someone might have a hard time 'getting over' the relationship. If it's over, you're no longer close to the washes, and you are forced to see the end color. What you may not remember is all the less-than-amazing washes of color it took to get the the end-state.
Anyways, I've lost my train. The point is that circuit boards are dumb and not fun. [some] Paintings are beautiful complications of color, and balls of yarn can frustrate you if you try to untangle them. So we need to leave our balls in tangles and just appreciate the color of the relationship. Whatever. I'm out.